Chris Walker discusses the importance of addressing internal conflicts as a foundation for resolving conflicts with others. He explains that internal conflict arises from binary thinking, where the mind polarises issues as either very good or very bad, creating a battle between the conscious and subconscious mind. This internal battle often manifests as external conflict, and understanding one’s internal positions and repressed feelings is crucial for effective conflict resolution.

Introduction

Good morning, good afternoon, wherever you are. This is Chris Walker, coming to you from the scenic vantage point of Ben Buckler, where the majestic sight of breaching whales graces the ocean view. Today, we delve into the profound subject of mind, mindfulness, and conscious leadership, with a special focus on conflict resolution.

Understanding the Greatest Conflict

There is no greater conflict on this planet than the one that occurs within our own minds. This might not be the answer you seek when looking for ways to resolve conflicts with others, but it’s an essential truth. A person with a conflicted mind is inevitably going to experience conflicts with those around them. The root of this internal conflict often lies in polarity—a binary thought process where things are perceived as either very good or very bad.

The Nature of Internal Conflict

When your mind engages in this binary thinking, it sets up a battle between the conscious and subconscious aspects of yourself. For instance, if your conscious mind views something as inherently bad, be it a person, a situation, or an event, there is another part of your brain that holds the opposite view. This internal tug-of-war can be between the logical and emotional sides of your brain, creating a state of conscious conflict that is relatively easier to manage because it is acknowledged.

The Balance of Polarity

However, life is always seeking balance. Whenever you take a strong stance on an issue—whether it’s political, social, or even something as mundane as sports—you ignite a battle within yourself. This battle is both conscious and subconscious, involving the logical and emotional parts of your brain. The conflict doesn’t just stay internal; it manifests externally through repression and expression.

For example, if you vehemently support one side in a debate, you repress the opposing side within yourself. This repression leads to others around you expressing the repressed views, creating external conflict. Essentially, what we repress, others express.

Addressing External Conflicts

When you find yourself in conflict with another person, especially if it escalates to hostility, it’s crucial to introspect. Ask yourself: What position have I taken that has polarized my views? What am I repressing that is being expressed by the other person? Understanding this can help in identifying the internal balance you need to achieve to resolve the external conflict.

Conclusion

Conflict resolution starts within. By recognising the internal battles and striving for a balanced mindset, you can address the root causes of conflicts with others. This approach is fundamental to conscious leadership and achieving harmony in both personal and professional relationships.

This is Chris Walker, encouraging you to reflect on your internal conflicts and take steps towards mindful and conscious living. Have a beautiful day.

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